The trap in being right.

 Hey you,

Have you always thought something is true about something or about yourself? You could swear that you were 100% right about what you were saying. It felt like the truth in your heart.

Years after years or whatever figment of time passed by, then you came to a realization that your truth and your right were indeed not entirely true?

Here comes the horrible, stomach aching feeling of guilt. I mean, how can you even fathom this catastrophic, world-ending discovery that you were wrong? After so many years of believing? I mean, you had receipts to back up your claim. Now, this?

Then the harder pill to swallow, SHAME. 

How can you admit to yourself that you were wrong all this while? How can you admit to yourself that you were foolish to have believed such ridiculousness to be the truth? You followed your heart and your heart led you straight into the trashcan. 

Your heart has betrayed you. Your heart is a traitor.

These entire thoughts fill your mind as you try to process the betrayal of the traitor you call your heart.

You’re not done yet with the ripple effects this sudden discovery of the new truth has opened. A stupid variety of PRIDE has to feature in this series of unfortunate events.

 How can you even admit to this earth-shattering new truth to someone else? How can you begin to accept that this horrible traitor (your heart) misled you? Lied to you and betrayed you? How? How? 

How can you face the world and admit that you were wrong in what you believed to have been the truth?

These are the times when in your human existence, you begin to question your entire existence. You begin to doubt your heart even more.

 I mean, your heart is a traitor after all, and if it misled you once, it might do it again.

I have always thought of myself to be asexual. I kid you not. I believed that there is no way I could look at a man and feel that naughty tingle in my lady parts.

 I should say the word pussy, but somehow I promised myself that I will try and use more ladylike words and not use nasty words in my blog. So I will not say pussy. I will be a lady and use the word, lady parts. Not pussy. 

This is on the list of things I thought will be the truth when I wanted to start this blog.

Years ago, I thought that marrying the man who was supposed to be the love of my life was one of the best things that happened to me. You see, I fought Pastor Linus and his wife over this belief.

 5 years later, I am fighting another war with my dear Pastor Linus and his wife. I do not believe what  I once believed in. 

I told you, our heart is such a TRAITOR!!!

I also forgot to add that this heart can disgrace and embarrass you.

I’ve come to understand that whenever it seems that our heart betrays us, it is just giving us the opportunity and blessing of GROWTH. 

I now see that growth comes with change which makes you disbelief what you once believed.

Growth is an unending process. We learn something new today, but it does not make us entirely right. We go from wrong to slightly less wrong, as Mark Manson puts it. I think this is how he puts it. I do not remember, and to be sincere, I don’t care.

When you are growing, you just become a little less wrong, and that is still ok.

Growth is like a mirage. It seems like we are approaching perfection but never able is attain perfection.

Apple, Samsung, and other reputable brands keep making billions of dollars annually because they understand the concept of being slightly less wrong every day.

In life, you cannot be all certain about a lot of things. Certainty is the enemy of self-growth. You can never be certain till it has been done. Till it has happened. You have to put your beliefs to the test. This is the only way you can be sure about anything. 

Even after it has been done and what you believe turns out ok, you are only slightly less wrong.

 Until then, everything remains debatable.

You cannot go through life striving to be right every darn time. You have to accept the imperfections of your values and give room for the benefit of the doubt. That is the only way growth can take place.

Give some room to doubt everything, love, beliefs, feelings, and what the future holds, etc. Stop stressing to be right all the time.

At the end of the day, whether you accept it or not, you can only be less wrong in the future, or not.

Disclaimer, if you plan to take life advice from me, you have entered one chance, because I am only inviting everyone to the conference that goes on in my head.

PLinus