The beauty in vulnerability.

Hey you,

I have been thinking recently about the whole idea of vulnerability. To be sincere, I find it a bit scary.

I mean, letting someone see the side of you that is not pretty, brave, confident, and positive.

You know what is scarier?  Being vulnerable with the wrong person.

Vulnerability might be scary, but it is refreshing and peaceful to completely, genuinely, and thoughtlessly fall apart and let your guards and walls down around a particular someone or people.

I see the beauty in letting someone know you and deliberately show someone who you really are.

You might nurse the fear of losing this someone if he/she does not like what he/she sees still you let your guards down.

 You are just grateful for the opportunity to be free, even at the risk of facing judgment from another person.

It is BLISSFUL!!!

The truth is, most of us grow up and grow old without ever experiencing the bliss of letting our walls down for just a second.

We live our lives longing to be free like a child but not brave enough to let those walls down and be free like a child.

It is a SAD life that we live.

I need us to understand that it is alright for people to judge us and not accept us when they see us for who we are.

It is ALRIGHT…

You know the phrase, IT IS NOT YOU, IT IS THEM? It is a correct statement in this context.

Some people see vulnerability as a sign of weakness because that is their understanding of life.

They go through life carrying walls as high as a mountain. It must be exhausting to bear such a load. You should pity them when they judge you. They do not know what FREEDOM is.

Now, imagine that you find someone who says and shows it in his/her actions that you can let your walls down and that that will be ok. 

It is BEAUTIFUL.

If you ever find that person or those people, make them your TRIBE. 

Cherish them and value them. They are rare to find.

Sometimes, you might take down your walls around someone, and though he/she will still love and cherish you but might decide to move on from you, not because they are judging you, but because at that point in their life, you are toxic for them.

Hey, calm down. We are all toxic in one way or the other. It all depends on how harmful these traits are to the other person. No one is perfect. We are all growing, so relax.

 I will give you an instance.

I met a beautiful lady. Oh my God, she is a sweetheart. Kind, gentle, funny, and cherry on the icing, she is goofy just like me.

However, she had traits that did not sit well with me at the moment. I could stay back and try working on our budding friendship, but I decided to let go.

I am not yet well equipped to be around these traits without hurting myself. I believe one day I might be, but not today.

So I let go.  I will always be grateful for the opportunity to get to know her. 

When she showed me that part of her, it did not change my perception of her as a sweet soul; I just decided to take care of myself now.

So you have to be ok with the fact that when you let down your walls, it is still ok for people to have a say on if to stay or go. It does not make them bad people. As long as they do not judge you.

So, what is your take on vulnerability?

Will you ever get the courage to let down your walls and be vulnerable with someone?

Things to learn,

1.     It is a blessing to have someone be comfortable with you letting down your walls around him/her.

2.     It is a blessing to have someone be their authentic self around you.

3.     You have to understand that the choices people make when you let down your walls around them are entirely up to them.

Disclaimer, if you plan to take life advice from me, you have entered one chance, because I am only inviting everyone to the conference that goes on in my head.

PLinus